Reflection Questions (Miracle Questions) – Exercise for Addicts
By Simon Mott
These reflection questions for addicts are an exercise that will help you visualise how the future could be if your problems were no longer present. You can also use it to establish your goals.
Take a leap of faith and focus on what you want to become and how you will get there. This exercise helps you to stop thinking about past difficulties and focus only on what you want to be. It takes you out of the problem and into the solution.
Are you sitting comfortably? Allow your breathing to slow and relax, let your mind wander where my words take you:
The story begins…. (taken from the miracle question)
Suppose in the middle of the night. When you are fast asleep, a miracle happens and all the problems that you have today are solved just like that.
Since the miracle happened overnight, nobody tells you that the miracle has happened.
So when you wake up the next morning, how would you discover that the miracle happened?
Everything you ever wanted, everything good you could ever imagine for yourself, had actually happened!
Your life had turned out exactly the way you want it.
Now take time to think about…
Think about those questions for a while.
Next ask yourself: What would the other people in my life, see, hear, and notice, that was different? Think about each of the people in your life: What is going through their mind as they deal with the new you? What would they think about your behaviour, attitude, and values in your new life? Now I want you to think back in time… look into your memories:
Different types of questions and how to use them
Scaling questions range from “the worst the problem has ever been” (zero or one) to “the best things could ever possibly be” (ten).
Exception Seeking Questions: There are always times when the problem is less severe or absent for the client. The counselor seeks to encourage the client to describe what different circumstances exist in that case, or what the client did differently. The goal is for the client to repeat what has worked in the past, and to help them gain confidence in making improvements for the future.
Coping questions are designed to elicit information about client resources that will have gone unnoticed by them. “I can see that things have been really difficult for you, yet I am struck by the fact that, even so, you manage to get up each morning and do everything necessary to get the kids off to school. How do you do that?” Genuine curiosity and admiration can help to highlight strengths.
Problem-free talk can be a useful technique for identifying resources to help the person relax, or be more assertive, also gather information on the client’s values and beliefs and their strengths.
Repeat the Miracle Question exercise on a daily basis
Resume your normal tasks, go through the rest of your day. The following day, think about how you acted when you assumed that miracle had happened, and how many things you actually did that were part of the miracle. Then imagine your life after the miracle in even more detail. Repeat the Miracle Questions for addicts exercise every day until the miracle has happened.
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