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Staying Clean and Sober at Christmas: The Best Tips and Coping Strategies for the Holiday Season

Staying Clean and Sober at Christmas: The Best Tips and Coping Strategies for the Holiday Season

Merry sober & clean Christmas and a Happy New Year!

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by┬аPaul Garrigan

Is it possible to enjoy Christmas without Alcohol or Drugs?

I remember approaching my first sober Christmas with a feeling of complete dread. I felt resentful when I heard people talking about the parties they were going to. It seemed like every time I turned on the TV, there was a reminder of what I was missing out on. The idea of having a good time at Christmas without alcohol was foreign to me back then. I saw the holidays as just something to get out of the way.

Against expectations, that first sober Christmas turned out to be brilliant. I spent the day with a group of new friends who were similarly committed to a life without drugs. There was a lot of laughing, plenty of delicious food, some games I hadnтАЩt played since childhood, and a fantastic sense of community. In the evening, we even had a bit of a party. I shocked myself by being able to dance for the first time as an adult without being drunk!

So, is it possible to enjoy Christmas without drugs тАУ completely clean & sober?┬аAbsolutely.

Reclaiming Christmas тАУ as a clean & sober holiday

Those traditions involving alcohol or other drugs that we associate with this time of year are going to be missing. This can mean the festive season initially feels a bit barren and pointless. The good news is that we can┬аcreate new traditions┬аthat donтАЩt involve intoxication. It is these new traditions that you will associate with Christmas in the future. This is how you reclaim Christmas.

Some possible clean & sober Christmas traditions you might want to try could include:

Stay safe in your recovery during Christmas: How to manage your stress levels

What do Christmas shopping, family get-togethers, office parties, cooking the turkey, and having the kids off school for the holidays have in common? Answer: These things can be stressful. Those in early recovery have the added stress of dealing with extra relapse triggers, and the sometimes unrealistic expectations of loved ones. Christmas can also be a strong reminder of all we have lost, and this can push our stress levels into the red zone.

It is hard to completely avoid stress at Christmas, but there are things we can do to better cope with it:

Surviving Christmas get-togethers clean & sober

If Tibetan Buddhist monks get overconfident about their spiritual development, they will sometimes be sent back to live with their families. This is a reality test. It is easy to be spiritual in the peaceful environment of a secluded temple or within a supportive and loving therapeutic community, but what about when we are surrounded by people who are experts at тАШpressing our buttonsтАЩ?

Spending time with loved ones over Christmas can be wonderful and quite a test for our recovery at the same time. Families can be a bit like a powder keg at this time of year. The stress of the holidays and all that extra time spent together sometimes result in heated discussions, angry words, and old wounds being torn open again.

Here are some steps we can take to survive these family get-togethers without picking up again:

Please check-out our recent post on┬аdealing with resentments┬аfor more tips on surviving family get-togethers.

Tips for Christmas on a budget & what really counts in recovery

For those of us who are struggling financially, Christmas is a challenging time тАУ especially if we have children. There can be a sense of shame and sadness when we canтАЩt buy our loved ones the presents we feel they deserve. How can we possibly enjoy the holidays if even buying the ingredients for Christmas dinner is going to be a struggle?

The best gift we can give our family and friends this Christmas is our attention, and this wonтАЩt cost us anything. It might sound like a platitude, but please consider this: There are plenty of children who are spoiled with gifts, yet still feel lost and miserable because their parents donтАЩt have any time for them. Addiction and self-obsession go together, but now that we are free of drugs and alcohol, we can be present for our loved ones and give them our full attention тАУ the gift that keeps on giving.

Here are some ideas for enjoying Christmas on a budget:

Why it is best to avoid going overboard at Christmas

Even if we can afford to splash out on Christmas (or we are willing to go into debt to make it extra special), it is still best to avoid going overboard. This is especially true if our reason for investing so much in the festivities is our desire to make up for the past or win back the trust and respect of our loved ones.

The problem is that it is only by our friends and family seeing how much we have changed that they can trust us again. This change needs to be lasting. We probably wonтАЩt speed-up the process by offering expensive presents gifts or lavish get-togethers. The risk is that if we do go overboard at Christmas, we could end up feeling underappreciated, misunderstood, and resentful. We could even use our disappointment as an excuse to relapse.

REMEMBER:The best gift you can give your family and friends this Christmas is the new sober you.

How to avoid a relapse at Christmas

I think most of us are pleasantly surprised to find that our first clean & sober Christmas turns out better than expected. There can be a lot more temptation though, at this time of year, so we do want to take any necessary precautions to avoid relapse such as:

No need to justify staying clean & sober

I discovered that the more I tried to justify not drinking, the more of an issue it became with other people. I started to see that it was usually those who had drinking problems themselves who were most fascinated by the fact that I wasnтАЩt indulging. Any explanation I gave these guys usually led to more questions and encouragements to drink. I never liked making up excuses anyway (e.g. тАШIтАЩm on medicationтАЩ) тАУ as if not drinking was something I needed to be ashamed about and tell lies to justify. I eventually realized it was much easier to just tell people тАШI donтАЩt drinkтАЩ and leave it at that.

The Christmas Day Comedown

I love Christmas, but there is always a sense of тАШis that it?тАЩ that pops up by the end of Christmas Day. This experience of melancholy is common and understandable. The build-up to Christmas now begins in mid-November, but the day itself goes by so fast. It is little wonder that some of us experience a bit of a comedown afterwards. If we are prepared for this episode of тАШis that it?тАЩ, it will pass quickly, and we can go back to enjoying ourselves.

Bah Humbug! But What If I Hate Christmas?

LetтАЩs face it, some of us just donтАЩt like Christmas, and the fact that we are now sober/clean isnтАЩt going to change that. The advice to тАШget into the Christmas spiritтАЩ can have the same effect as telling a depressed person, тАШyou should cheer upтАЩ. There is no law that says you must take part in the festivities, and for many of us, the best advice might be to treat Christmas like any other day of the year.

Starting the New Year clean & sober

Once you made it through the Christmas holidays clean & sober, New YearтАЩs Eve is already lurking around the corner. Many of us will be in the habit of тАШseeing in the New YearтАЩ through a chemical haze, dancing the night away at some party or drowning the sorrows of last year in alcohol. Therefore, we may be at a complete loss about how to do things sober. Here are a few suggestions:

Dealing with the Post-Christmas Blues

Once all the excitement about Christmas and New Year subsides some of us can feel a bit down or even lost. January can feel dark and bleak, especially if we live in a cold climate where the days are short. We may also miss our family and friends after having spent so much time with them over the holidays. Others might feel the need to celebrate or urge to reward themselves for the fact that they made it through the holidays clean & sober with a drink or a pill. This is why relapse rates stay high throughout these first weeks for the new year. One way to beat the blues is to take on some projects. Make sure you have some things to look forward to (in terms of a reward: a spa day, watching a movie at the cinema or a ticket to the next game of your favorite team could be healthy alternatives to picking up the bottle or drugs again). It is also important to talk to people about how we are feeling: Reach out to your support network and be transparent about whatтАЩs going on for you.

Wishing you all a happy sober Christmas! If you want to give us a gift this Christmas, you could do just that by sharing this post.

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