Let’s Talk About Gossip
By Simon Mott
Topic at one glance:
Modern research indicates that people who gossip generally have very high levels of anxiety (click here to read about effective approaches for dealing with anxiety) and anger, the gossip can be a defense mechanism to relieve their anxiety. They often feel isolated, threatened and lonely so see gossiping as a quick fix. However, engaging in gossip makes them unpopular because they cannot be trusted. So it’s a vicious cycle: Remember the spreading of private information or negative judgments is harmful to one’s self and other people, thus can reflect badly on the gossiper.
What Is Gossip?
If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.
Gossiping Is Human Nature But Can Be A Negative Habit
At what point do you cross that fine line?
No one is immune to gossiping, and most of us have talked about someone who has not been in the room at that moment, and we have also all been the subject of gossip. Talking about others is a natural pastime for many of us. It can be fun, and it livens up conversations.
Two or more people often can form a strong bond when sharing a dislike for someone or something else. Maybe they consciously or unconsciously believe that revealing something negative about someone else will make them look and feel better. Titillation and excitement are triggered by gossiping or making jokes at the expense of others misfortune. Anger and resentment towards someone will be relieved (click here to find out about effective anger management techniques).
Gossip And Rumors In Recovery From Addiction And Alcohol
At most AA and NA meetings they will read the following warning: what you see here, what you hear here, when you leave here, let it stay here. Anonymity and confidentiality are the spiritual foundation of all groups, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities.
Gossip can lead to relapse and relapse can, and does kill.
Most importantly gossip can be hurtful amongst recovering addicts and alcoholics because the communities are specially formed to provide support. Relationships in recovery are extremely important for our continual nurturing and development.
Trust is paramount; this is partly why honesty and integrity in recovery are vital to our survival.
Why Is Gossip Harmful?
Gossip can badly damage trust and faith. If some shares a sensitive piece of information they hear or think they know, this can be cruel – remember there is a right and wrong way to do things.
Why Do People Engage In Harmful Gossip?
Facebook has built a business on human nature’s obsession with other people – which can go both ways!
It is a strange fact that people are more interested in others live than there own
More Forms Of Gossip
“If you propose to speak, always ask yourself,
— The Buddha
What To Do About Gossip If It Is Targeted At Someone You Care About Or Not?
First, define what gossip is for you, then with a clear mind go through the points listed below.
How To Deal With The Gossip Proactively
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YOU MIGHT ALSO BE INTERESTED IN OUR PODCAST EPISODE ON THAT TOPIC: “GOSSIP – WHAT’S THE HARM?” WITH SIMON MOTT AND PAUL GARRIGAN.
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