Family addiction therapy at Hope

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Family addiction therapy

Family addiction therapy Program

At Hope Rehab we suggest to all clients that they involve their families in family addiction therapy, loved ones and anyone who has been directly affected by their addiction or alcoholism. Even though we are located in Thailand it is still possible to have family addiction therapy. We do this in many ways, but one way is very affective, the family feedback questionnaire. In addition family addiction therapy can include Skype calls and emails.

Understanding family history maybe helpful with clients experiencing deep shame, confusion, or anxiety as a result of seeing themselves repeat negative behaviors from their in childhood. It may also be useful in family therapy, since many individuals are from families where addiction and alcoholism is prevalent. For clients struggling with acceptance and forgiveness family addiction therapy may help in understanding their problems. It may also be useful for clients who have parenting issues in recovery to understand the roots of their children’s behaviors.

It’s important to understand the role of family history in addiction, not to blame or point the finger but for your own recovery and your family’s future. 

We ask all appropriate parties to agree to participate in the family treatment program by completing the following questionnaire.

Below you will find a series of questions as a guide. What I am specifically interested in is how you felt as results of your family member’s addiction/alcoholism and subsequent behaviors, whether expressed previously or not. Even though some of the questions might bring about uncomfortable feelings, please write them down anyway. The reason I am asking you to do this is that your feedback is valuable and could help them heal.

For example: “When you did that..., I felt like this ... “. Be honest and open and avoid trying to think how your response will affect family member. Your family member needs to know the pain and damage they caused whilst in order to see the need for change, this is how addiction family therapy works.

How has your family member’s addiction affected you? Give specific examples of events that happened and describe how they made you feel at the time and now. For example, think about instances of:

  1. Not telling the truth
  2. Not keeping their promises
  3. When their addiction caused you problems
  4. Borrowing/misuse/stealing of money
  5. Ignoring you, or your advice or showed disrespect
  6. Inappropriate anger or other forms of aggression
  7. Incidents of sexual infidelity
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Family addiction therapy

How has their addiction changed your relationship with your family member?

For example:

  1. How has their addiction changed the family as a whole?
  2. What was your role in the family? (This should also be a longer answer)
  3. How has their addiction changed your relationship with your family member?
  4. And how has their addiction changed the family as a whole?
  5. What was your role in the family? (This should also be a longer answer)
  6. What can your family member do, or show you to restore your trust in them?
  7. What are qualities in your family member that you like and dislike?
  8. What are their strengths and what are their weaknesses?
  9. Which behaviors of your family member would like to see restored/continued and which behaviors would you like to see changed or stopped?
  10. What changes have you seen in your family member since entering into treatment?
  11. How would you like to see your relationship with your family member in the future?
  12. What can they do, and what can you do to improve this relationship? (Think about roles and communication)
  13. In the past, how has your family member’s addiction affected your own personal integrity?
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Family Constellation Groupwork

Discussion on Family Dynamics/Systems and Roles in the Family is also part of Family addiction therapy at Hope Rehab.

This experience requires the entire group to be open-minded, understanding, and all unrestricted participation from peers and complete silence except when as instructed by the presenting client and/or counsellor facilitator.

Client asks peers to come up and s/he then assigns the peers a role (client’s mother, father, wife, husband, children, siblings, etc.). Client should use peers that physically resemble the person they represent to strengthen the impact.

Client physically positions the “family members” around them taking into account distance, facial expressions, body language, and where they are in relation to one another (maybe the mother would be placed between the client and the father with hands out as if they were protecting client from the father).

Client then walks the group through the meaning of the poses and explains why s/he positioned everyone that way. What events lead to the family looking like this? How does it feel?

While everyone is still posed, what would you like to say to your family members? Approach each one individually and speak to that person. How do they change position and body language with what you have to say to them? Speak from the heart.

Allow time for peer feedback and support after each persons’ turn to present their family dynamic.

NOTE: Hope has a “next of kin” policy for reasons safeguarding in Thailand i.e. all our clients must name someone we are free to share information with at our discretion.  As regards progress reports to family we do ask permission on admission to involve relevant family members as this is usually beneficial for our clients. Reports are usually an email or by telephone unless to a referring Doctor. Also in some cases family are funding the treatment and we believe it is respectful to update them on their loved ones progress so this is encourages. Unfortunately involving family can be highly sensitive due to dysfunctional family dynamics, occasionally there is a dispute or conflict with client’s family Eg divorces.

 

Family addiction therapy by Simon Mott