Negative Thinking Patterns, self-talk and beliefs
I once heard someone say addicts are “egomaniacs with an inferiority complex” this struck a cord with me. In my head I can still have negative thinking patterns, a dialog that includes unhelpful self-talk springing from irrational core beliefs.
After years of CBT and working on my negative thinking patterns I realize at a deeper level my negative core beliefs turn in on me and degrade me. But before they do this they turn on the world and other people. I read about ABC model and it goes something like this…
Thought 1 – anxiety at situation (catastrophic)
Thought 2 – Anger at others (Blame)
Thought 3 - self pity with self (Self loathing)
Negative Thinking Patterns
- Why does it always happen to me
They call this personalizing, I call it bad-luck or superstitious thinking, probably not rationally looking at the real causes of a situation. Apply unfairness rather than taking responsibility.
- I don’t care so there
This is ushaually Denial, because we all do care at some level, however it helps relieve uncomfortable feelings when we don’t get what we want.
- Life is shit anyway
Filtering out the positive for sure, this is a effort to absolve us from our part? The universe has conspired against us that is why our life is not satisfactory.
- Blame game
It is a auto-reaction, it is instinctive to blame, including blaming others for their sins. But it is for the most part unhelpful, as when we do this all we do is give all our power away to the one we blame.
- Judge, jury and executioner
Judging is also instinctive but also negative when we judge others self-righteously as we are setting our selves up and destined to be a hypocrite, humility is a better applied.
- Must and should
Rigid thinking leave us cornered like a rat sometimes, flexibility is not weakness it gives us options.
- It is all going to go wrong anyway so why bother
This is strategic pessimism, maybe it is guarding against disappointment to stay safe we reduce our expectations to such a low point we are paralyzed.
- I cant trust or rely on anyone
High expectation on other human beings is a common mistake and this is why we suggest getting a higher power that cannot let us down.
Negative Thinking Patterns - The solution
So what do we do now we have identified our negative thinking patterns? I suggest writing them down on a peace of paper and then next to them write down the healthy thoughts. These will be your affirmations and it really helps to repeater them daily for a while. Very soon you will not only remember them but automatically when you get negative thinking patterns, your new improved thought will counter them.
Negative Thinking Patterns by Simon Mott