Are We Completely Powerless to Stop a Family Member Self-Destruct Due to Addiction?
No, but getting it right, i.e. helping without enabling is a fine balance so Hope’s team are here to help and advice you.
My Son/Daughter using drugs, I don’t know how to get them into Rehab?
My Husband/Wife/Dad is drinking too much, what do I do?
These are the messages or calls we often get so you are not alone. Watching your loved one struggle with an addiction problem is horrible situation to be in. You can end up feeling so powerless and overwhelmed by it all. You have probably already tried using reasoning, threats, pleading, and coaxing, yet this person continues on a downward decent. It can seem like such a hopeless situation.
Some good reasons for choosing Hope in Thailand
- Highly secure facility and policies
- Travel is inexpensive to Thailand
- Thailand is often more appealing
- Private rooms and stimulating facility
- Affordable prices for most families
- Effective evidenced based program
- Regular updates and communication
- Distance from using envronment
- Detox included in the price
- Longer term rehab program lasting 6 months
- Alternatives to returning back to old life in Thailand
- After rehab planning and support
- Experienced in working with families
The sad reality is you can’t force a family member to end an addiction problem because this person needs to be willing to change. Does this mean your only option then is to stop trying to help and just let this person get on with it? Well, maybe not. It is true you can’t directly force your family member to quit, but you may be able to get them enter an environment where the willingness to change is far more likely to arise. This is what a family intervention is all about.
What is a Family Intervention?
“If an addict or Alcoholic is mad with you its because you won’t enable them”
The reason it is so hard for those of us engaging in substance abuse to appreciate the concerns of family members is we are caught up in denial. This cognitive defense mechanism is part of the addiction process, and it prevents us from hearing the truth. It means that instead of accepting alcohol or drugs is a problem, we believe the concerns of family members are due to them being ‘killjoys’, jealous, or ‘moaners’.
It can be easy to brush off the concerns of one person, but it is much harder to do this when we are confronted by a group of people. This is what makes an intervention so powerful. It can involve a group made up of not only family members, but also friends and work colleagues. The coming together of this group of concerned individual can make the situation appear serious enough to break through the wall of denial.